As the groom in this affair, I don't have as many things to think about as Liz. So I've started to wonder how we can include our cats or our love of cats in the festivities.
Clearly, we can't expect Arthur and Beowulf to attend the wedding ceremony or reception. We are having the ceremony and reception at a catering hall and, even if the hall allowed us to bring pets, it would be pretty selfish of us to drag them out of the house and expect them not to get lost or injured or scared in a strange place.
However, I do have some ideas of how to involve our cats in our wedding:
- Take a Photo: One of my coworkers has a picture of his wife in her wedding gown and himself in his tuxedo, with both of them holding their cat. I asked him how this picture was taken and he told me that they had had a photographer take the picture at their apartment on the morning of their wedding.
Unfortunately, Liz and I are getting married at a place which is about an hour and a half from our apartment. We will be staying over at a hotel the night before and the night of our wedding so taking a wedding picture with the boys may not be possible. I asked Liz if we could stage the photo at some point after our wedding by getting dressed up in our wedding gear and taking the picture at home and she said that her dress has some beads that could fall off and be swallowed. Also, staging the picture seems somewhat fake to me. I feel like our boys should see us on our wedding day and I would be willing to take a limo into the city after the reception just so we could stop by and see the boys.
- Feature our Cats on our Wedding Invitation: We're probably going to print our own invitations and I would love to find a way of including a picture of the boys on the invitation.
- Encourage Donations to Animal Charities: Perhaps this sounds tacky, but I'll just throw it out there as a concept. I would love to find a way to encourage our wedding guests to donate to an animal charity like the ASPCA or Bideawee Shelter (where we adopted the boys). I had thought about asking for donations in lieu of wedding gifts, but Liz would like to register for all the normal things people get when they are married (flatware, cookware, etc.), and I can't really blame her for wanting those typical things.
Another thought we had was to donate a few dollars in the name of each guest and give that instead of a thank-you gift. That might also go over like a lead balloon. Any ideas?
- Get a Cat Cake Topper: I would love to find a cake topper with a cat bride and groom or with a human bride and groom surrounded by orange cats. I've seen some sites that will custom make a topper for you, but they are hundreds of dollars and it's a little wasteful to spend more than $50 on a cake topper, IMHO.
- Name Tables at the Reception after Cats: Besides the Beowulf table and the Arthur table, we'd have to think of other cats for the rest of the tables if we want to have a consistent theme. I suppose we could have a Morris table.
Anyway, these ideas might seem a bit silly to some and, if you think I'm being impractical, I can't blame you. It's just that Arthur and Beowulf are such a huge part of our lives. We were engaged before the boys came into our lives, but adopting them really brought Liz and me closer together and made us a real family.