Yesterday when I spoke to him, I asked the new vet if it was a good idea to switch doctors in the middle of "a crisis" like this. He said "what crisis? He's on a feeding tube. You know what to do. This is not a crisis."
"It is for us," I corrected him.
For the past 10 days, Liz and I have been in "crisis mode" 24-7 with Arthur. If it wasn't rushing him to the vet and hospital for tests and then worrying about him when he was at both of those places overnight, it has been monitoring and caring for him at home.
After he got home from the hospital last Thursday, we spent hours every day and night watching him to see if he ate and then cajoling him to eat and sometimes spending hours sitting on the kitchen floor with him, petting him, and begging him to have a few more licks from the bowl.
Now that we have the feeding tube inserted, we have more concerns. Will the tube pop out when we're not looking? Will he got caught on something he tried to rub against? Will his brother, who has been very sweet, decide he's ready for a play fight? Since he came home with the tube, Liz has stayed up all night every night watching him to make sure nothing happened to the tube. During the day, she has caught a few naps between feedings during the day, when both Arthur and Beowulf seem more sedate. The lack of sleep, food, and leaving the house is taking a MAJOR toll on her health. It's no picnic for me either.
In the mornings and at night, we try to feed him regular food and then hang our hopes on his every lick and bite or lack thereof. We watch his mood and behavior as we're watching him. Is he looking better or worse? Could he be getting worse, despite our best efforts? Does he need a biopsy? What would that mean?
I would love for the new vet to tell us "listen, you really can relax. I'd like to see him reposition the feeding tube so it doesn't seem like it's about to get caught on something, to give us some reassurance about Arthur's progress, and to give us some advice we can use. We're willing to stay up all night monitoring him every night, but it is taking its toll on us in a huge way.